Ok guys… how do you “get” a girl?

To many people, the word “get” means to “acquire”. But I’m hoping you can do better. Another definition of “get” can be “to understand”.

Getting a girl can mean “getting” how she feels. This can mean having empathy for what she wants from you… from life… from herself.

It can mean recognizing that historically women have not been given the same privileges and opportunities as men. And while the world is currently changing, we have not yet come far enough. Still today they can face discrimination and uphill battles.

It can mean getting that she might have experienced physical and/or mental abuse that shapes her perspective. Perhaps she has not been listened to or taken seriously. In response, she might feel anger, embarrassment, cynicism or any other coping mechanism.

Listen. Be inquisitive. Put yourself in her shoes. Only then can you “get” a girl… along with her trust and respect.

And finally, after all this good work, it also can mean that you don’t condone demeaning language or behavior from the men around you. It’s worth the effort to be a good person.