#EQ #Empathy
The Golden Rule tells us to “treat others how you want to be treated”. On the surface, this sounds much more pleasant than “treat others in any way that achieves your own goals”.
But wouldn’t it be more effective to “treat others how THEY want to be treated”? Isn’t this full of empathy? Doesn’t this create an understanding of the person across from us and see things from their point of view (POV)? Isn’t the old saying a little bit narcissistic and judgemental (think of it my way!). Yes sometimes the other person’s POV needs correcting or avoiding, but often it’s important to honor the lens they see through rather than reacting to them in the way you think you would want someone to react.
The Golden Rule helped shape modern progress… but it’s time to level up our EQ game.
hope our kids read this! 
Smart!
“My” Golden Rule is simple: get people to talk about what THEY want to talk about. If you’re actually interested, that’s a good thing. 99/100 times you can be. If you’re not? Feign interest. As long as somebody believes you’re interested in what they’re talking about, you’ll gain equity. Special note: This largely applies to business/professional dealings. If it extends to your personal life, so be it. It by and large hasn’t extended to mine.
Yeah I like that. Make it about the other person. And then if they are doing the same it all works out.
Also In the situation where you have to treat someone a certain way- ie you think they want your help, or you think they want you to respond to them in a certain way… rather than doing what we think is the right thing to do for us, we get to know the other person better and respond to them not how we think is the right way to respond but with awareness of how they want you to respond.